As much as I hate to admit it, sometimes I speak in code. I probably have code talk more than most. Part of it is family upbringing, part of it is my personality in not wanting to hurt other's feelings...and yes, part of it, it is how I've managed my professional life. The problem, my code filter has worn out, and now I go from "code talk" to something like "How stupid are you that you don't understand?" Kind of like the automobile commercials....from 0 to 60 in 4.8 seconds!
This becomes hard to manage. Brene Brown calls it "making up stories in my head." Well, if I there were a contest for that, I'd win. Hand's down. In short, I can make up more stories in my head while I'm in the middle of code talk than are written for a weekly television show--for three seasons. And while I'm learning to manage that, I've started noticing how hard I try to interpret male speak around me. Only, male speak doesn't need translation. For the most part, they are simple creatures.
Never fear, "Overthinking Chick" to the rescue. This superhero shows up at the most irritating times. "What do you really think he meant when he said, 'Today is a day of the week?' Do you think I'm supposed to know what day it is? I mean it is Tuesday. On Tuesday, August 13, 2012 at 8:24 p.m., he said that 'Today is a day'. Do you think that because it is May 13 that there is significance? That is a 3 year, 9 month spread. 9 divided by 3 is 3. There is a 3 in 13. or is it that it is 8:24? 8-2-4 or should it be 8-(2+4)?"
About that time, the non-crazy part of my brain yells, "STOP! JUST stop!" He probably means it is a freakin' day of the week. Just like yesterday was...and just like tomorrow will be. A day that has ZERO significance except that it is a day--a day of the week. .
Some days, I make myself crazy with this translation process. Yea, I know some would say it is too late for a partial diagnosis, but I like to think of it as gotta go with what you are good at!
Tonight, I was talking to a male friend of mine. He said, "If your mind was a treadmill, you wouldn't have to go to the gym." Hmm...does that mean he thinks I should go to the gym more often? How much more often? Would it be better in the morning? Or at night?
O.k. I'll catch you later....I'm going to the gym. I'm going to stay there all night so I have both covered.